Agreed, for all of the reasons you point out.

Around 1970, I was harassed on a daily basis by 3 or 4 women at my work who demanded to know why I wasn't fleeing to Canada...and how could I take the chance that I could be compelled to go far away and kill innocent, full-sized people. I made a deal to stop their harassment. I promised never to harass them about certain choices that I, as a guy, would never have to confront, if they, as women, would return the favor.