Hmmm - I guess you want a filter (procmail?) that deletes bounces that don't match an entry in your sent email.

Depending on your setup "sent email" may need to be recorded by a tap on your smtp or it may just look in your sent mail folder?

But, as usual with any spam solution you need to ask the experts : why won't this work?

Then you learn something new and obscure about how complex and 'insecure' email is...