I used one of those external flash units for my ixus, and it did work, but it was tricky to get working correctly. It had a switch on the camera to adjust its sensitivity to the camera's flash. For instance, if I was using the ixus' red-eye mode, I needed to set the switch on the external flash unit accordingly.
The problem isn't likely that the ixus is getting confused, it's more likely that the external flash unit is getting confused and is firing at the wrong time. Re-read the unit's manual and see if there's anything about its settings, or the settings on the ixus, that will improve its operation.