I wish you luck. Make sure you go into the meeting with a record of everything that happened (time/date). It gives you a much stronger position.

BTW, when I mentioned the nice guy/mean guy routine, I wasn't referring to one person being a total arse. I meant more along the lines of one person being there to let off pressure from the other asking for action. Then, if they are being unreasonable, they should already have some rapport with one of you, so a little anger from the "nice guy" should cause them to back down a little.

I really wasn't sure if I was very clear the first time around. I hope things work out for the best for both your kid and DP. He needs help of some kind, but there is always a chance that he can turn himself around. The bully I mentioned earlier that I had problems with eventually turned himself around in high school and is well-adjusted now.

-Biscuits